Difficult times  

Difficult times bring out the best and the worst in me. 

At first, I would want to scream out loud and blame everyone but me. I may or may not be at fault and still I would plant hate in my heart. “Why me?” “What have I done wrong?” All of these questions ring in my head over and over again. All of them left unanswered. 

The mystery of the reason of my suffering seems to add fuel to the fire. Know your enemy, they say, but I don’t even know who I’m against. Fate? Others? Me and my bad choices? Or worse, it’s all a huge mess of coincidence and inborn unluckiness. The last one is definitely the worst.

Eventually, I’d get tired of asking. By then, there will be nothing left to do but face it head on. The only way to it is through it. And so, left with my own devices, I try to remain calm, survive and fail miserably.

In some moments I would even go back to questioning even knowing (all the while) that I’m not going to get any answers at all. Then comes the sweet and bitter surrender. 

It’s the come-and-throw-it-at-me-I-could-care-less phase. It’s the odd feeling of being in control of an uncontrollable situation. I am in control because I know there will be more to come and there is absolutely nothing I can do. Oh, not really nothing, I can pose as an arrogant being that has seen and felt worse. This statement can be true or nah but the fake confidence lasts enough to get you through a day or two. This is my personal favorite.

Im not sure how some people react when faced in a difficult situation. I can only speak for myself. Getting angry is my first instinct then comes all the yada yada listed above. 

I’m not even sure how all of it ends. Somehow, the situation passes, even if I swear it felt like it was not going to end. It really does get better or if it doesn’t, at least, it does not get any worse. 

Difficult times  

The starter’s guide to a shit-free life

Stop taking shit. You have enough of it on your plate to get more of it. And that’s okay. Not taking shit from others means living a life that is free from unsolicited opinions and hearsays. Not taking shit means being unaffected by the bitterness of society. Not taking shit means living by your own set of rules without being dictated by so called “norms”.

No, you do not even have to explain either. You don’t owe that to anyone. You owe it to yourself. If you do choose to open up, you should feel free to do so and not because the untold words are forced out of your mouth.

But you do not think highly of yourself if one day, while getting out of your bed, you realize you were not born to please anyone and everyone. It is knowing what you want and what you don’t. It is knowing your personal bubble and keeping it safely away from intrusions.

It is not isolating yourself because no one understands you. It is choosing solitude when the world gets too loud. It is listening to the soft whispers of your heart when life keeps shoving its norms down your throat.

It is not caring about what other people might say. It is knowing where you stand and why you do what you do. It is being courageous to take bold steps when everyone keeps telling you you won’t make it. It is trying again even after failing without hearing the “boo’s” of some crab-minded people. 

It is being open-minded rather than being rigid in false beliefs. It is standing up for what you think is right even.if everyone tells you otherwise. It is not being easily swayed to conform with prejudices without experiencing it first-hand.

Shit things come in the form of victim-blaming, bullying, even ranting behind someone’s back. Shit is when someone tries to climb up the social ladder by trampling on other people. It is shit when you don’t feel like talking to people and there you are out in a bar listening to others’ personal shit. Shit is basically the things you do and don’t that does not reflect your truest sentiments.

Shit comes in many forms but it is still shit. You don’t need it. You don’t want it.

So be loud if you have to call out a corrupted individual. Or be in silence with yourself because who the hell said it’s lonely sitting in a coffeeshop alone?

So you see, it’s about time you stop taking shit. 

The starter’s guide to a shit-free life